March 23, 2016
Have you ever felt like Technical Support wasn't helping you fix a problem you had been struggling with? I just had the experience of talking to three people in Tech Support asking them to help me fix a problem. The first person sounded bored and asked me to describe the problem repeatedly. The second person seemed to get stuck in the fact that his "solution" hadn't fixed the problem. The third person listened carefully, inspired hope and confidence that the problem would be fixed, and indeed helped me fix it. Just like a good Therapist, the third person kept an open mind as to what the problem could be, and systemitically set out to help me find a solution. It turns out that the solution was something that perhaps I could have found if I had not gotten stuck in, not only my frustration, but also the very limited ways I had imagined different solutions. The third Tech Support person opened a door to the correct solution, a door I did not even see, although it was right in front of me. Too often when dealing with emotional issues we feel ashamed for having the. This can lead to withdrawal from others. Other times we take are frustrations out on the very people who care most about us. Friends try their best to be supportive, but sometimes hesitate to let you know how you might be adding to the problem. A trained Therapist help you sort through your frustration, anger, or feelings that things will never get better. This can lead to clear identification of solutions and ways to navigate barriers to continued well-being. Who would haven thought a phone call to Tech Support could be so enlightening?
When a new client comes for their first appointment they are often anxious, ambivalent as to whether therapy can help, and unsure how to proceed. I often tell people that making it to that first appointment can be one of the hardest parts of their therapy. So how can one go about choosing a Therapist and getting what they need out of that first session?A client may peruse Therapist's websites to determine what a Therapists areas of interest and training are. A client may go to the Board of Behavioral Sciences website to determine how long the Therapist has been licensed for and if there are, or have been, any sanctions imposed against them. A client will want to contact their insurance company to find out if the Therapist accepts their Insurance, and what part of the treatment cost they will be responsible for. Prior to the first session, it is important to make a list of questions you may have, and information you feel it is important for the Therapist to know in order to work with you. The clearer you can be about what you would like to change by coming to Therapy, the more time can be spent developing a plan to help make those changes happen.A Therapist is trained to see possibilities, increase a clients confidence they can make changes, and support and help remove barriers to that change.A Therapist is mindful of challenges to making positive changes occur, while knowing that living a life that has meaning, and satisfaction is within anyones reach.
March 23, 2016